Welcome. You are not alone.
I’ve been my husband’s cancer caregiver for 14 years, I’m also a mom of two young kids, a sandwich generation parent caregiver, and a working professional.
I need an outlet–a place where I can admit and complain and cry and share and listen and learn about how to do this and still keep a sense of myself.
I want brutal honesty, not pithy advice. I want to talk about how unbelievably hard and heartbreaking being a caregiver is. About all the messed up things you feel and all the ridiculously difficult things you do. And I want cursing, because this is some hard shit and it feels like no one admits that out loud.
Since I couldn’t find that outlet, I decided to create one, here.
Welcome. You are not alone.
How cancer patients can support their caregivers
When you search for family caregiver support information, you tend to find answers in this order:1) how caregivers can support a loved one with cancer2) how caregivers can support themselves3) how others can support cancer patients and caregivers There’s little to no discussion or even acknowledgment of how cancer patients could and should support their own caregivers. This is absolutely…
Caregivers: You are TOTALLY the heroes
I’ve written about how caregivers aren’t the heroes and my struggle with wanting credit for my role as a caregiver in the face of my husband’s incredible resilience, determination and strength. But is what I do worthy of wearing the cape? Am I a hero too? Let’s examine: Carrying the load vs just getting through this thing called life That…
Caregivers: You are not the hero
In my caregiving experience, the patient is an absolute superhero and the caregiver generally gets relegated to something more along the lines of an afterthought. This is particularly true with something like cancer, which is always talked about in terms of a “battle.” Patients are “fighters,” who are “winning” or “losing,” who are “survivors,” etc. As a caregiver, you hear…
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